Disciplining Kids in a Christ-Centered Home

christian parenting family Sep 23, 2024
discipline for kids in a Christ-centered home

“No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”

- Hebrews 12:11


 

As Christian parents, the task of disciplining our children can feel overwhelming at times, but it’s a critical responsibility that helps guide them toward Jesus. Discipline is more than just correcting behavior—it's a way to shepherd our children’s hearts and point them to the Lord. In a world full of distractions, staying grounded in biblical principles will help you raise kids who know and love Christ.

 

1. Keep Christ at the Center of Discipline

First and foremost, remember that your children are gifts from God. They’ve been entrusted to you, and it's your responsibility to guide them in their faith journey. When emotions are high and discipline feels tough, remind yourself—and your children—that they are children of God.

Pray with your children, instruct them in the Scriptures, and talk with them about their personal faith as they reflect on their actions (with very young children, a simpler version of this may be practiced). Teach your children about the reality of sin and the conflict between the “old man” (their sinful nature) and their identity as a “new creation” in Christ. Ask them to reflect upon their thoughts and actions: Have they behaved in a manner that aligns with the way of Jesus or the ways of the world?

 

2. Develop a Plan for Consistent, Biblical Discipline

Having a discipline plan in place will help both parents stay on the same page. Discuss together how you will address common behavioral issues at home and in public. For example, you may handle tantrums at home differently than you would in the grocery store, but consistency is key.

Naturally, the plans will change over time; it’s an ongoing discussion. They must adapt as your children grow older, and sometimes similar offenses may require various responses because of the differences between children. Putting your plans in writing and sharing them with your children is important. A written discipline plan helps prevent confusion and frustration. Your children will know what’s expected of them, and you’ll feel more confident in how you handle challenges.

 

3. Don’t React—Respond with Grace

When your child lashes out or disobeys, it’s easy to take their words personally. But reacting out of frustration can make things worse. Instead, remain calm and focused on the plan you’ve created with your spouse. If necessary, step away from the situation for a moment of prayer or reflection before addressing the behavior.

If the situation catches you off guard and isn’t part of your usual plan, don’t hesitate to postpone discipline in order to talk with your spouse first and get on the same page. Staying on the same page helps keep your discipline efforts unified and strong.

 

4. Act Quickly to Reinforce Consequences

When possible, discipline should follow misbehavior promptly, especially for younger children. The quicker they can connect the consequence to their action, the better they will understand the lesson. While consulting your spouse in unusual situations is important, immediate action is generally best.

 

5. Be Consistent: Unity Between Mom and Dad is Essential

Children thrive on consistency. When parents are united in their approach, it builds trust and understanding. Avoid the “good cop, bad cop” dynamic where one parent is lenient and the other is strict. Your child should know that discipline will be fair and predictable no matter who is handling the situation.

 

6. Practice Patience: Discipline is a Long-Term Process

Don’t expect that discipline will cause a change in behavior immediately. For some children, this will be the case. However, many kids will need a lot of reminding and consistent discipline in order to change their behavior. You are playing the long game, and it may take much more time than you think is reasonable or necessary. Commit to it anyway. Some trees must be watered for months and even years before they start showing significant growth. But this is because those early years were full of a root system flourishing beneath the surface where no one could see. Training children is much the same. Don’t lose heart: You may not see the fruit right away, but the roots are growing deep. What you are doing matters.

 

Conclusion: Discipline with the End in Mind

Above all, make sure you and your spouse are reading God’s Word daily so you know how to walk in obedience in this task of parenting. Spend time reading and researching ways to discipline biblically, and come up with a written plan together that you are both comfortable implementing. Remember, your children are gifts from God to you, and ultimately belong to Him to be used for His glory. Use your discipline to point them to Jesus!

 

Key Points:

  • Biblical discipline is essential in Christian parenting.
  • A well-thought-out, written plan helps both parents stay consistent and confident.
  • Discipline is a long-term process that requires patience, prayer, and persistence.
  • Remember your children are God’s children first, and your ultimate goal is to point them to Jesus as their Savior.

 

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